Sunday, February 14, 2010
OF BITTERNESS, LONELINESS, AND BREAKUPS 02-11-2010
“No matter how careful you are, there’s going to be the sense you missed something, the collapsed feeling under your skin that you didn’t experience it all. There’s that fallen heart feeling that you rushed right through the moments where you should’ve been paying attention.” — Chuck Palahniuk
“I am learning how to be alone without being lonely, learning how to be lonely without losing my mind.” — Paul Baribeau
“We sit silently and watch the world around us. This has taken a lifetime to learn. It seems only the old are able to sit next to one another and not say anything and still feel content. The young, brash and impatient, must always break the silence. It is a waste, for silence is pure. Silence is holy. It draws people together because only those who are comfortable with each other can sit without speaking. This is the great paradox” — Nicholas Sparks
“Anyone can become angry—that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way—this is not easy.” — Aristotle
“Do not depend on the hope of results. You may have to face the fact that your work will be apparently worthless and even achieve no result at all, if not perhaps results opposite to what you expect. As you get used to this idea, you start more and more to concentrate not on the results, but on the value, the rightness, the truth of the work itself. You gradually struggle less and less for an idea and more and more for specific people. In the end, it is the reality of personal relationship that saves everything.” — Thomas Merton
The mistake many people make when apologising is that they expect forgiveness. This is not about you; it is about the person you hurt.
“Some of us escape the pain of regret by making the right choice. Some of us have little time for regret because we’re looking forward to the future. Sometimes we have to fight to come to terms with the past, and sometimes we bury our regret by promising to change your own ways.”
Two of the hardest and most painful tests in life: having the patience to wait for the right moment, and mustering the courage to accept that you have waited for nothing.
“Sometimes the past is something you just can’t let go of. And sometimes the past is something we’ll do anything to forget. And sometimes we learn something new about the past that changes everything we know about the present.” — Grey’s Anatomy
“Waiting is a trap. There will always be reasons to wait. The truth is, there are only two things in life, reasons and results, and reasons simply don’t count.” - Dr. Robert Anthony
Things have changed. We’ve both become two very different people. Or maybe that’s just me. I realised that you’ve changed heaps since we’ve talked, & that’s been a very long time. I sometimes wonder what you’re doing at the moment or where you are or who you’re with, but only sometimes. You’ve become a minor thought in my head. I don’t think about you as much as I used to anymore. Maybe that’s cause we’ve drifted apart, very slowly. Eventually we’ll probably forget about each other & I guess that’ll be the end.. The end of what started off as an amazing beginning.
“When a heart is wounded, it doesn’t heal in just an hour like a silly scrape. Instead, it turns into a scar; a scar so deep that you’ll have to carry it for a life time.” — Shizuma Hanazono, Strawberry Panic
“Don’t attach yourself to anyone who shows you the least bit of attention just simply because you’re lonely. Loneliness is the human condition. No one is ever going to fill that space. No matter how badly you might want them too.”
“How do you know when how much is too much? Too much too soon. Too much information. Too much fun. Too much love. Too much to ask… And when is it all just too much to bear?” — Meredith Grey, Grey’s Anatomy
“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are now written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.” — Rainer Maria Rilke
“Sometimes, running away means you’re headed in the exact right direction.” — Alice Hoffman
“There’s no doubt about it - break ups suck. But in the first few hours or days or weeks that follow, there’s one important truth you need to recognize: some things can’t and shouldn’t be fixed, especially that loser who dumped you or forced you to dump him. It’s over for a reason.” — It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken