“Sometimes there aren’t words. The silence between us is flung wide as an ocean. But I manage to reach across it, to wrap my arms around him.” — Jodi Picoult
Him: Wow, you don’t think it’s hard for me ?
Her: Why would it be ? You have girls ALL over you.
Him: What the hell — No. It’s hard enough knowing your cold, but I can’t be there to hold you tight or offer you my jacket. It’s hard enough knowing you’re hurting, and not being able to wipe your tears or offer you my shoulder. It’s hard enough falling asleep on the phone with you, wishing so much I was instead next to you. You don’t know how hard it is to deal with knowing I’m not physically with you. You act like all these girls are all over me, but I’m here right now. TRYING MY BEST to get you to understand that you mean so much to me. Stop acting like it’s only a one way street. I love you, and you only.
How To Make A Long Distance Relationship Work
- Be Clear on What You Expect From the Relationship - It is important to make sure that each of you has the same goals concerning the relationship. Are you planning on building a future together or are you just interested in keeping in touch and maintaining what you have for now. Understanding each other’s goals will help prevent hurt feelings in the future.
- Make Use of Technology - One thing long distant relationships have now that they didn’t have 20 years ago is the availability of so many ways to communicate. Cell phones make calling more convenient and easier. Make use of E-mail, web cams, social media, and any other technology that makes communication easier and more fun.
- Make Yourself Available - One important thing in relationships is knowing that the other person is there just to talk to when you have a problem or just had a bad day. Try to be available as much as possible.
- Share New Experiences - While it is fun to share common experiences, it is also exciting to share unique experiences that you have had living in a different state or city. This is one of the advantages of a long distance relationship. It also helps the other person to feel more connected to you.
- Make Holidays Extra Special - One of the most difficult times for long distance relationships is when you can’t spend the holidays with that special person. Try to communicate often during this time, and maybe send several gifts separately instead of one gift.
- Plan Actual Visits - After all the e-mails, phone calls and text messages, nothing beats being there physically. You should make every effort to actually see each other when possible. Sometimes this is not possible or practical, but make an effort to do it whenever you can.
- Don’t Let Jealousy Overwhelm You - Jealousy is a natural feeling when you care about someone. If these feelings arise in you or in the other person, don’t be surprised or angered by it. You both should acknowledge these feelings and do what you can to put the other person at ease about the relationship.
- Surprise Each Other - Sending gifts on holidays or birthdays is great and it always appreciated. However when that special person in your life sends you a gift “just because” it makes it even more special. So send a “just because” gift or even an E-card once in a while.
- Make the Most of Each Communication - In a long distance relationship every communication is valuable so don’t waste it. There may be times when you have to discuss things that may not be pleasant, but don’t let that subject dominate the conversation, always end the conversation with positive words.
- Talk to Others Who Have Long Distance Relationships - It’s a good idea to talk to people who have made long distance dating successful. They may be able to give you some ideas about how to make it work. Also, sometimes it helps just to discuss this subject with someone else who is familiar with it.
Thanks for sex and advice for the wonderful tips above.
“Long distance is for hardcore motherfuckers on fire.” - @dearcoketalk